Making the decision to move a care dependent parent into your home is never an easy decision. Each situation is different and deserves to be thoroughly analyzed before you jump in feet first. Here are some questions that need to be addressed as you’re going through the decision process.
How will I talk to my parent about moving?
How does my spouse and children feel about moving them into our home, and how will it change our lives together?
What things will be easy for us to negotiate in living together, and what things will be hard?
What are the limits of my ability to care for my parent at home, and what if I have to put them in a nursing home?
How will my siblings feel, and how much help will they give me in caring for our parent?
Will their friends come to visit them at my house, or will they be dependent on me for all her socializing?
What are my needs for privacy and alone time?
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Where will my parent sleep—in my daughter's room, convert the den, build an addition?
What assistive devices do I need—grab bars in the bathroom, raised toilet seat, ramps, etc.?
Does my parent smoke or drink, and will that be a problem for me?
Does my parent have a pet that will be coming with them, and how will I cope with caring for it?
What will the financial arrangement be? Should I charge rent? Will I have expenses for them to cover?
How will my siblings feel about the financial arrangement?
Will my work situation have to change, and if so, how will I cover the bills?
Will my parent need care during the day, and if so, how will it be provided?
How will I juggle my job, childcare responsibilities, marriage, and taking care of my parent?
When will I be able to make the phone calls needed to make arrangements for my parent?
When will I have time for myself?
How comfortable am I with helping my parent bathe or changing an adult's diaper?
Do I know what to expect over time as my parent’s condition changes?
How is my health, and will I be able to take care of myself as well as my parent?
Am I willing to accept respite care to get a break?
If you are facing these questions, a family consultation with a Freudenthal Social Worker can help you sort out the pros and cons of such a move and provide information and resources to make things easier for you and your family. Call us at 816-676-8050 today!