Have you ever experienced a feeling of guilt when you leave the home of your senior loved one? You folded laundry, you bought and put away the groceries, you helped your loved one bathe, made sure they took their medication, prepared for their bed and even watched their favorite television program for them. However, that night as you are settling down in your own home, you are overcome with guilt, questioning yourself on whether or not you spent enough quality time with them.
Why Do Family Caregivers Experience Guilt?
After doing all of those things for your loved one and providing them care and companionship, why do you experience such feelings? Guilt is one of the most common feelings that Family Caregivers have in regards to their ability to provide quality care for their loved one. Many times, this is because you may wonder if your loved one would have access to more comprehensive care in a live-in facility or that other obligations inhibit you from providing total care.
Ease Your Guilt
If you notice that feelings of guilt are occurring more frequently, here are some ways you can ease that guilt.
- First, acknowledging your feelings is the first step. Ignoring your feelings can lead to emotional stress. By saying “I feel guilty,” you must realize these feelings are nothing to be ashamed of and are in fact, very common.
- Second, it is important to reach out to others for support. By telling a family member that you are experiencing guilt, they can help you walk through the cause of those feelings and help explain why you shouldn’t be hard on yourself. Oftentimes, others can give you a different perspective.
- Finally, ease the feelings of guilt is to take time to do something extra for your loved one. If your schedule demands more of your time during one week, do something special the following week. Bring flowers to brighten your loved one’s day or spend an extra hour with them playing a board game or going for a walk. This not only gives them extra time with you, but will help you realize that there is an obtainable balance between your life at home and your responsibilities as a caregiver.
Many of the private duty in-home services that Freudenthal Home Health provides, such as transportation or personal care can help you spend more one-on-one time with your senior loved one and less time in the role of Family Caregiver. This can help ease the stress and guilt of your responsibilities and create a more rewarding relationship for both of you. Contact us today to find out more ways we can be your partner in caregiving.